Turning frustration into freedom
The little voice in my head sounds exactly the same today as it did when I was a young girl. And I suspect this is true for many. After years of frustration at my life not turning out as I expected it to – married, children, financial success at an age that society dictates appropriate – I’ve since learnt to manage the negativity associated with waiting. Instead of being resentful of the ‘waiting is the story of my life!’, I eventually accepted that I am the Girl Who God Told To Wait. Embracing the glory that each moment, positive and negative, is merely a life lesson that does not require labelling… it just is.
Is my struggle over? No. It’s just taken a different turn. There’s no destination, only the journey.
The Girl Who God Told To Wait lives in all of us
We are always in conflict over what we want and what God wants for us. This struggle results in unnecessary pain and angst and disrupts the natural peaceful flow that our souls need in order to be at peace and happy and ultimately, flourish.
The girl-child, particularly, suffers from a systemic dissonance that is inculcated in a society shackled by patriarchy that, at worst, keeps her enslaved, abused and neglected and at best, gives her illusions of independence and self-determination whilst subliminally conspiring to engender a culture that demonstrates otherwise.
As she lives in the 21st century, she’s given access to opportunity, potential and encouragement from some quarters. Yet, she’s consciously and unconsciously taught that she is inferior, weaker and incapable. That she needs a ‘knight in shining armour’ to rescue her. No wonder she is so confused!
Drawing on past experience as a backdrop I want to demonstrate that girls, young women and women at any age, are complete and whole from the moment of inception. Period. You may find yourself in situations where you have self-doubt, when you are deterred from your dreams and aspirations, or when you’re unsure. You are not your hair, the colour of your skin, the shape of your nose or the size of your breasts. You cannot find your happiness in anyone else. You are a soul having a human experience.
My message is simple: find out what feeds your soul first, before you commit to share yourself with others. Join me, my sister, as I unpack some of my deepest thoughts and feelings, in the hope that it may, in whatever small way, have some positive impact on your journey. God has a plan for each and every one of us. Best you believe it!